Your Rules For Living

When possible we do not want our unhealthy beliefs to become reality

So we create strategies (rules for living) that will avoid them being exposed

Our rules for living are linked to our beliefs

These can be

– healthy, rational strategies or

– unhealthy, irrational unrealistic

Examples:

I must do a perfect presentation or I am failure

Unless I get top marks in the class I am not good enough

I have to have perfect complexion or I am unattractive

I must make my partner a fantastic dinner or they will be very disappointed in me